Tragic news!

[ex-Gooserider]

My girlfriend of 30+ years has just passed away suddenly earlier this afternoon... I left the house very early this morning to work a booth at a town event (In my role as Chair of our towns Commission on Disability) and while I was there the police came and found me to tell me that she had passed away. She was as fine as she ever was when I left, so this comes as a total shock and surprise. It is especially sad in light of her father passing away a few days ago (which was expected, he was in his 90's, and had gone into hospice a few weeks ago.)

We have a caregiver who does stuff for both of us, but primarily her, and he came in this afternoon around 1:00 and found her sitting in her wheelchair in front of her computer. No idea about exactly what happened, but as a friend put it she was a medical "house of cards" with a long list of issues, any one of which could have been the cause.

I'm still in a bit of shock, and at the same time having to start working on figuring out what I need to do in order to deal with this. That we weren't married complicates things, although we at least both had wills that left everything to each other, and named each other as executor, so it hopefully won't be to horrible...

ex-Gooserider

[Williamclark77]

I sincerely hate hearing this. My condolences and best wishes to you, your family, and her family.

[Burgerman]

25 has been a terrible year so far. Again, dont know what to say. Other than I feel for you.

[LROBBINS]

Dear ExGooseRider,

That is such sad news. I'm sorry to hear that we also bshare this, as well as WheelDriver. May her memory be a blessing!

[Diesalweasel]

sorry for your loss my friend

[Raro]

I'm so sorry. I don't know how many forum members or family members we've lost in a short time.

[Potty]

Sorry for your loss.

[slomobile]

This is tragic news. A partner in life has made the brightest best parts of my life possible. No doubt she felt the same for you, and you for her. As most of us here have learned, life endures even as elements of it go out. You have been a light to every reader here. During this dark time... The metaphor falls apart. Nothing can fix this. We're here, wishing we could.

[martin007]

R.I.P.

[ex-Gooserider]

Thanks for the kind words, I appreciate it.

I will continue, though it is difficult.

ex-Gooserider

[Pierro]

I'm so sorry. I can't imagine coping with this. I wish you strength during this difficult time.

[ex-Gooserider]

Thanks, I appreciate it... Biggest headache now is trying to deal with all the outside entities like her insurance company, investment places, and so on... Because we weren't "Married" they mostly won't talk to me, even though I'm listed in her will as executor and sole heir, and had a durable power of attorney (which ends automatically when the person dies) and was her medical proxy, etc...

Generally a pain in the posterior... I've also had to hire a lawyer to deal with all this, at US$ 200-400 / hour, with a $7,500 retainer up front, and told to expect the total to be around twice that... Makes me think Shakespeare was right....

ex-Gooserider

[Burgerman]

I keep telling everyone to get a will done! Didnt help you though. I havent done one myself though as I dont want to die. I am a hypocrite.

[jefferso]

Condolences. Wishing you the best getting through the difficult times.

[REPARACIÓN SILLAS]

Big hug, dear friend. I wish you the best and a kiss to heaven.